20 July 2021
Daily life is too hurried to draw any lines. But if we stopped to think about privilege and hard/smart work the waters get muddy, quickly. To make an estimate, a reasonable way, though not flawless, would be to ask some tough questions.
Starting at 0, each question adding or removing points. If a question does not apply even remotely, add a 0. E.g. the best score is 100 points and the worst is -100. At the end of the test one person has 20 points, another has 60 and another has -40.
So, the person with a score of 60 lecturing the -40 on how he is where he is because he didn't work as hard/smart as he did is a little rude if not blatantly arrogant.
Forget about lecturing. It's stupid no matter the privilege score. It's helpful at least to not fool ourselves that we're better off than others because of our own doing. If pushing hard is your thing, push harder than David Goggins if you wish but stay humble. Understand or pretend, that the wiring of our brains are different. It makes relationships healthier.
Many problems with the questions above. E.g. I can very easily miss a a lot of specific ones, that do not fit under the above categories. E.g. a person scores 10 out of 10 on most questions and gets an overall score of 80+. Meanwhile if we added just a few of his struggles that didn't fit above, his score can quickly sink to the negative.
Nevertheless, I still think it's useful to try to think about the privilege issue.